Can I say, "Poor Arn"? (SCA specific)

I recognise the neccesity but I hate, as a wife, that his special day is going to be eclipsed by at least two other people's same-thing, like an assembly line with him as the littlest piggy... even though his 'date' was set far in advance. I shall have to work hard to make sure that he feels as honored and as special as I think of him.

I'm sure it can't be helped. But I can't help feeling a little bad for him, too - although he's so big in spirit that even if he ended up feeling like it was a left-over thing, he'd never say so. The man is much bigger than I am. I just remember how wonderful and soul-warming my own Peerage ceremony was and want that desperately for him. But time constraints and other people's desires are going to make that impossible.

And Lud! Between this, Ymir's scheduled stuff and the baronial investitures, I am SO glad I'm not one of the Royals. Holy Toledo. It would be enough to make me cry. No matter how much they bend over backwards to try to accomodate as many folks as possible, they're gonna take a hit from one corner or the other. There's just so many weekends in a Reign and too much to get crammed into them.

SO if you think I am really complaining, you'd be wrong. I am *regretting the circumstances* and increasing my determination to try to ensure that the most wonderful person in my life has as touching and as deep an experience as I did - just as other folks will be doing the same for the other writ-holders. Because, you know, this only happens once in a person's whole life. So it should be an experience that carries meaning to them.


Now to figure out how to do that and still be effective in my job as Head Troll...