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I was going to post a nice reflective entry but heatermcca ruined it, simply ruined it, I say, by posting ( this great video, certainly one of the best wedding speeches ever )

A Poser

In a recent discussion I asked a question that drew a blank look followed by one of near-panic from my therapist. So I thought I'd ask it here and see what sort of insightful responses it might draw. First, some definitions:

Humility – the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one's own importance, rank, etc.

Self-worth - the sense of one's own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect.

So my question is, when you are an adult long past adolescence and lacking a positive sense of self-worth, how would you reconcile attempting to build that while at the same time valuing and wishing to attain (retain) humility at the same time*?

I know it is possible - look at the Dalai Lama. But barring being able to go back to one's childhood and choose a different method of upbringing, how does an adult in today's society build their self-image while avoiding the trap of going too far into conceit?

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*Note to Catholics - my patron Saint is St. John of God, chosen for me by my sponsor, a very sweet, very stern member of the Order of the Sisters of St. Mary of the Valley. He has been my example for a very long time...