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molly_world
1) What has been your biggest challenge in the SCA?
2) Which virtue do you most admire? Why?
3) If you could give up one day of your life to speak with someone from your past, who would it be and why?
4) What outfit do you own that absolutely makes you strut everytime you wear it?
5) If I was coming to your home for dinner, what would you prepare to knock my socks off?
and
Fromlaruse
1. What do you find is the most common misconception about modern pagans?
2. The Navy was very hard on you but what positives did you take from it?
3. If you could wave a wand and magically make one thing about the SCA change, what would it be?
4. I know you had back problems, and wore a brace for a while. What kind of problems did you have and did the surgery help? Are you better for the most part?
5. East coast or west coast? :-)
and finally fromisenglass
1. Do you choose your protoge's/apprentices, or do they chose you?
2. (personal, therefore optional) How did your early abuse affect the way you chose to parent?
3. Did you know that you used to scare the crap out of me?
4. What advice do you have for someone who is trying to balance their activity in the SCA and raising children?
5. What advice would you give to a newcomer to your group?
1) What has been your biggest challenge in the SCA?
Honestly? Being reconciled to the circumstances that encourage a cult of entitlement amoung a minority of our members.
2) Which virtue do you most admire? Why?
Honesty. Without it, there can be no trust and no integrity. A person can be the biggest back-stabber in the world and diss me badly, but if they admit to it, even if they say they are ever gonna stop, their honesty about it draws all the anger right out of me and gives me ground to work a way around whatever negative it is.
3) If you could give up one day of your life to speak with someone from your past, who would it be and why?
My little sister Vicky. She died 5 days after birth when I was two years old. They let me hold her... I'd like to do that again.
4) What outfit do you own that absolutely makes you strut everytime you wear it?
Ah, well, hmmmm. I don't think I have one. I'm too self-concious for that.
5) If I was coming to your home for dinner, what would you prepare to knock my socks off?
Again, ah, well, hmmmm... I'm an okay cook but not a gourmet. Probably gumbo, a salad, and some sort of milk-shake-like dessert from whatever flavor of ice cream I could secretly learn that you loved. You know, if you liked peaches, a thick shake-like thing with real peaches and some peach brandy in it, with whipped cream - or if you were a chocoholic, smooth dark chocolate mixed in with drambuie-laced Vanilla Bean ice cream topped with hot fudge and slices of dried pineapple and apricots. Or something like that. (Sorry. Told you I'm only an okay cook.)
1. What do you find is the most common misconception about modern pagans?
That we are Satanic evildoers who don't respect other faiths.
2. The Navy was very hard on you but what positives did you take from it?
I love my country - and the benefits of it more than I ever did before I joined. And I appreciate the self-worth that I gained by giving of myself to it, 'paying my franchise'.
3. If you could wave a wand and magically make one thing about the SCA change, what would it be?
The law-writing rights of a King and Queen without ratification by the people of the Kingdom.
4. I know you had back problems, and wore a brace for a while. What kind of problems did you have and did the surgery help? Are you better for the most part?
My discs between three vertebraes were being crushed as the bone of the vertebrae themselves disintegrated. Had I not had the surgery, I would have been bed-ridden within a year or less, and lost my lower body functions some time after that. The surgery had a 60% success rate, 'success' being "the patient can move from bed to wheel chair on their own" or better. So while I have no ability to kneel without shaking like a leaf and fainting, in all other ways I am fully recovered. So in my book, the surgery was a Huge Freaking Smashing Success And I Owe the Doctor For Life. *cough* I mean, yes, I believe I'm better for the most part. :)
5. East coast or west coast? :-)
Love lots of folks here. Wanna move to a prettier coast?
1. Do you choose your protoge's/apprentices, or do they chose you?
I truly think it's "both". It's almost like dating - ya both think about it and hem and haw until the subject finally comes up.
2. (personal, therefore optional) How did your early abuse affect the way you chose to parent?
I (and Arni too) had a solid list of Things We Shall Never Allow and we stuck to it. And in some ways, it made me a more lenient parent, in that our sons were never pushed to succeed as many kids were/are - this is something I regret, actually, as I see them working (basically) cruddy jobs with no desire to be more financially secure or successful. I worry a lot about them.
3. Did you know that you used to scare the crap out of me?
HUH? I've heard that a lot lately... I'm sorry. And no, I didn't know. I see myself as an insecure scardy-cat who sits in a corner unless I force myself to be risk being rejected. The idea that I scare people (outside of the Troll Booth at Pennsic) is really bizaare to me. I mean, I guess I do, but it just doesn't seem, well, real. I agonise for days, weeks, month whenever someone gets hurt by me or says something mean to me - how can I do that and be scary? (Shouldn't scary people be like, always decisive and clear and, you know - scary?)
And maybe oddly, you always sort of intimidated me. You always seemed to be so clear about what you were doing and where your boundaries were, and so really good at everything you did.
4. What advice do you have for someone who is trying to balance their activity in the SCA and raising children?
Family comes first and never let anyone try to guilt you into letting that go. And sometimes, "family" means "rolling down the hill whooping with laughter over and over again with your sons is more important than going to that event with the "whatever" going on, or stepping in to take over that job that the other person dropped". Because the SCA will always be here - but after 15 years or so, all you have of your sons is your memories.
5. What advice would you give to a newcomer to your group?
Take your time. When you want to make/buy your garb, do it with linen and wool - your garb will last you over 10 years, maybe longer, so use materials that will grow more comfortable and look better all the way down the pike. Don't join a household until you've been in for over a year. Do take a deputy-something job - volunteering gives you a place and introduces you to the best folks in the SCA.
molly_world1) What has been your biggest challenge in the SCA?
2) Which virtue do you most admire? Why?
3) If you could give up one day of your life to speak with someone from your past, who would it be and why?
4) What outfit do you own that absolutely makes you strut everytime you wear it?
5) If I was coming to your home for dinner, what would you prepare to knock my socks off?
and
From
laruse1. What do you find is the most common misconception about modern pagans?
2. The Navy was very hard on you but what positives did you take from it?
3. If you could wave a wand and magically make one thing about the SCA change, what would it be?
4. I know you had back problems, and wore a brace for a while. What kind of problems did you have and did the surgery help? Are you better for the most part?
5. East coast or west coast? :-)
and finally from
isenglass1. Do you choose your protoge's/apprentices, or do they chose you?
2. (personal, therefore optional) How did your early abuse affect the way you chose to parent?
3. Did you know that you used to scare the crap out of me?
4. What advice do you have for someone who is trying to balance their activity in the SCA and raising children?
5. What advice would you give to a newcomer to your group?
1) What has been your biggest challenge in the SCA?
Honestly? Being reconciled to the circumstances that encourage a cult of entitlement amoung a minority of our members.
2) Which virtue do you most admire? Why?
Honesty. Without it, there can be no trust and no integrity. A person can be the biggest back-stabber in the world and diss me badly, but if they admit to it, even if they say they are ever gonna stop, their honesty about it draws all the anger right out of me and gives me ground to work a way around whatever negative it is.
3) If you could give up one day of your life to speak with someone from your past, who would it be and why?
My little sister Vicky. She died 5 days after birth when I was two years old. They let me hold her... I'd like to do that again.
4) What outfit do you own that absolutely makes you strut everytime you wear it?
Ah, well, hmmmm. I don't think I have one. I'm too self-concious for that.
5) If I was coming to your home for dinner, what would you prepare to knock my socks off?
Again, ah, well, hmmmm... I'm an okay cook but not a gourmet. Probably gumbo, a salad, and some sort of milk-shake-like dessert from whatever flavor of ice cream I could secretly learn that you loved. You know, if you liked peaches, a thick shake-like thing with real peaches and some peach brandy in it, with whipped cream - or if you were a chocoholic, smooth dark chocolate mixed in with drambuie-laced Vanilla Bean ice cream topped with hot fudge and slices of dried pineapple and apricots. Or something like that. (Sorry. Told you I'm only an okay cook.)
1. What do you find is the most common misconception about modern pagans?
That we are Satanic evildoers who don't respect other faiths.
2. The Navy was very hard on you but what positives did you take from it?
I love my country - and the benefits of it more than I ever did before I joined. And I appreciate the self-worth that I gained by giving of myself to it, 'paying my franchise'.
3. If you could wave a wand and magically make one thing about the SCA change, what would it be?
The law-writing rights of a King and Queen without ratification by the people of the Kingdom.
4. I know you had back problems, and wore a brace for a while. What kind of problems did you have and did the surgery help? Are you better for the most part?
My discs between three vertebraes were being crushed as the bone of the vertebrae themselves disintegrated. Had I not had the surgery, I would have been bed-ridden within a year or less, and lost my lower body functions some time after that. The surgery had a 60% success rate, 'success' being "the patient can move from bed to wheel chair on their own" or better. So while I have no ability to kneel without shaking like a leaf and fainting, in all other ways I am fully recovered. So in my book, the surgery was a Huge Freaking Smashing Success And I Owe the Doctor For Life. *cough* I mean, yes, I believe I'm better for the most part. :)
5. East coast or west coast? :-)
Love lots of folks here. Wanna move to a prettier coast?
1. Do you choose your protoge's/apprentices, or do they chose you?
I truly think it's "both". It's almost like dating - ya both think about it and hem and haw until the subject finally comes up.
2. (personal, therefore optional) How did your early abuse affect the way you chose to parent?
I (and Arni too) had a solid list of Things We Shall Never Allow and we stuck to it. And in some ways, it made me a more lenient parent, in that our sons were never pushed to succeed as many kids were/are - this is something I regret, actually, as I see them working (basically) cruddy jobs with no desire to be more financially secure or successful. I worry a lot about them.
3. Did you know that you used to scare the crap out of me?
HUH? I've heard that a lot lately... I'm sorry. And no, I didn't know. I see myself as an insecure scardy-cat who sits in a corner unless I force myself to be risk being rejected. The idea that I scare people (outside of the Troll Booth at Pennsic) is really bizaare to me. I mean, I guess I do, but it just doesn't seem, well, real. I agonise for days, weeks, month whenever someone gets hurt by me or says something mean to me - how can I do that and be scary? (Shouldn't scary people be like, always decisive and clear and, you know - scary?)
And maybe oddly, you always sort of intimidated me. You always seemed to be so clear about what you were doing and where your boundaries were, and so really good at everything you did.
4. What advice do you have for someone who is trying to balance their activity in the SCA and raising children?
Family comes first and never let anyone try to guilt you into letting that go. And sometimes, "family" means "rolling down the hill whooping with laughter over and over again with your sons is more important than going to that event with the "whatever" going on, or stepping in to take over that job that the other person dropped". Because the SCA will always be here - but after 15 years or so, all you have of your sons is your memories.
5. What advice would you give to a newcomer to your group?
Take your time. When you want to make/buy your garb, do it with linen and wool - your garb will last you over 10 years, maybe longer, so use materials that will grow more comfortable and look better all the way down the pike. Don't join a household until you've been in for over a year. Do take a deputy-something job - volunteering gives you a place and introduces you to the best folks in the SCA.
