Sometime I Forget
Jul. 8th, 2010 05:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Sometimes I forget that the single most common reason for a person's behavior is that they want to be liked, appreciated. That the officious, the interfering, the drama-queen - they all want what others have, the approval and goodwill of those around them.
For all that I am prone to snippy remarks and snarky comments to my friends about people who annoy me (and we all have incidents of such in our lives), I cannot help but also respond to that desire to be liked.
It's not easy to get over a dislike for someone and extend them a friendly hand. I need to do that more often. Because I also know that in many cases, once acceptance is achieved, the drive for the drama/overbearing/whatever eases and the person I would call the 'real one' comes out.
Helping that person emerge is a worthy goal.
For all that I am prone to snippy remarks and snarky comments to my friends about people who annoy me (and we all have incidents of such in our lives), I cannot help but also respond to that desire to be liked.
It's not easy to get over a dislike for someone and extend them a friendly hand. I need to do that more often. Because I also know that in many cases, once acceptance is achieved, the drive for the drama/overbearing/whatever eases and the person I would call the 'real one' comes out.
Helping that person emerge is a worthy goal.