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Jan. 2nd, 2018 11:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
stitchwhichI don't know how many people who read this are parents but I'm sure that those who are can relate to my exasperation in my plans for early this morning... I'm playing Mom-Taxi for my youngest child and his girlfriend for the day. You see, she needs to renew her passport so she can fly home to try to organize medical care and living conditions for her father. He became ill in the middle of December, was hospitalized and released, and will need long-term assistance. Because of that he is being kicked out of his son's house by his son's wife, who doesn't feel she is able to cope with his needs. I don't know their situation and don't want to. It's none of my business. But I do understand that the situation is in need of a long-term remedy and no one there is stepping up to address it. And thus the daughter's need to fly home. And therefore to renew her passport (I fail to understand how a foreign national could be allowed to let their passport expire.) So Girlie needs to renew and it must be done in person at the Embassy. It is in Washington DC and has no parking avalable. Which is fine, because she has no car. Neither does my youngest. And thus I'm in the picture.
Today they called and asked for a ride to get her passport photos and to get various necessary papers notarized. They didn't know where to go for those services. I told them to google it. They found a bank which advertised notarization as one of their services but they did not call the bank to see if the notary officer was there. While I was waiting for the passport photo service at CVS drug store to take care of her I used my phone and googled it, then called the various FedEx/Mail Depot/Kinkos nearby to find which one had a notary working today - it being after 4:30 in the afternoon. These were listed above the banks in google, which leads me to believe that these two couldn't google their way out of a wet paper bag, Their google-fu is weak.
So today - papers photocopied and notarized, passport photo achieved. Yay!
Guess what? There are form which must be downloaded and completed. Youngest has no printer where he lives (and she is visiting) so the forms must be sent to me so I can print them for her. It is after midnight... this has not been done. Neither has she contacted the Embassy by phone or email to verify that their office will be open and it truly is a walk-in service.
She's feeling punky and was sulking most of our running-around time today. So she isn't sure if she will be up for the trip tomorrow but thinks she can force herself to go. I dropped them off and asked her to contact me later after she was feeling better, to let me know if I am driving or not. It is after midnight and there has been no communication (to be fair, she is cramping very badly, it being 'that time of the month' and I know how that can screw up one's concentration.)
If we travel to DC tomorrow, we need to leave here by about 5am. It is a 4.5-6 hour trip each way. My plan at this point is to check my messages at 0430 and if there is no word I will text them to say that the taxi stand is closed for today. Because tomorrow night we will be hit with snow in the evening, 2-4 inches, after raining at nearly-freezing during the day. Honestly, I'd refer to not make the trip tomorrow yet that would mean waiting until Friday (maybe) or probably next week. In the meanwhile her dad is trying to juggle all his problems by himself.
What this fiasco has brought me to ask is, "How can this disorganized and emotionally fragile person possibly be the one who will efficiently organize her father's medical and daily care when this is the way she handles her own needs?"
*sigh*
And she is hungry for a child of my youngest's making. I wish parents could have vote-of-confidence rights for their adult offspring's choices. Well, no, not really. But it sucks to stand by and respect their choices when I know that we will be the ones taking care of any such offspring afterwards. Neither of them have the income flow to support owning a vehicle, much less caring for a child and apparently haven't thought beyond the rosy glow of "oh, a baby! It will have your eyes and my dimples and..."
Today they called and asked for a ride to get her passport photos and to get various necessary papers notarized. They didn't know where to go for those services. I told them to google it. They found a bank which advertised notarization as one of their services but they did not call the bank to see if the notary officer was there. While I was waiting for the passport photo service at CVS drug store to take care of her I used my phone and googled it, then called the various FedEx/Mail Depot/Kinkos nearby to find which one had a notary working today - it being after 4:30 in the afternoon. These were listed above the banks in google, which leads me to believe that these two couldn't google their way out of a wet paper bag, Their google-fu is weak.
So today - papers photocopied and notarized, passport photo achieved. Yay!
Guess what? There are form which must be downloaded and completed. Youngest has no printer where he lives (and she is visiting) so the forms must be sent to me so I can print them for her. It is after midnight... this has not been done. Neither has she contacted the Embassy by phone or email to verify that their office will be open and it truly is a walk-in service.
She's feeling punky and was sulking most of our running-around time today. So she isn't sure if she will be up for the trip tomorrow but thinks she can force herself to go. I dropped them off and asked her to contact me later after she was feeling better, to let me know if I am driving or not. It is after midnight and there has been no communication (to be fair, she is cramping very badly, it being 'that time of the month' and I know how that can screw up one's concentration.)
If we travel to DC tomorrow, we need to leave here by about 5am. It is a 4.5-6 hour trip each way. My plan at this point is to check my messages at 0430 and if there is no word I will text them to say that the taxi stand is closed for today. Because tomorrow night we will be hit with snow in the evening, 2-4 inches, after raining at nearly-freezing during the day. Honestly, I'd refer to not make the trip tomorrow yet that would mean waiting until Friday (maybe) or probably next week. In the meanwhile her dad is trying to juggle all his problems by himself.
What this fiasco has brought me to ask is, "How can this disorganized and emotionally fragile person possibly be the one who will efficiently organize her father's medical and daily care when this is the way she handles her own needs?"
*sigh*
And she is hungry for a child of my youngest's making. I wish parents could have vote-of-confidence rights for their adult offspring's choices. Well, no, not really. But it sucks to stand by and respect their choices when I know that we will be the ones taking care of any such offspring afterwards. Neither of them have the income flow to support owning a vehicle, much less caring for a child and apparently haven't thought beyond the rosy glow of "oh, a baby! It will have your eyes and my dimples and..."
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